Diseph Igoni, LMFT

There is a quiet tension many people don’t talk about in the midlife season—the pull between maintaining continuity and honoring capacity, between what life has asked of us in the past and what the nervous system is able to sustain now. We often think about the immune system as something physical—a system designed to help the body recognize, respond to, and recover from external threats. In my work with women in midlife, I’ve been thinking about a psychological immune system as an adaptive...

In recent months, something has been showing up with striking consistency in my practice. Clients—often women in midlife—are entering therapy in a state of serious consideration of separation or divorce. While the language of “divorce” is often used, what I’m seeing in my practice applies across committed relationships—whether married or not—where one partner is seriously considering leaving. Sometimes they arrive already emotionally halfway out the door. Other times, the thought has been...

In my work with couples, I observe conflicts, difficult interactions, and even the absence of communication. During these moments, both...